Proverbs 31 - Week 2 - Virtue

Proverbs 31:10-12
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
    She is more precious than rubies.
11 Her husband can trust her,
    and she will greatly enrich his life.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.
Virtue - Behaviour showing high moral standards.

A virtuous and capable wife is a great treasure to her husband. He trusts her and his life is made rich and good.
As women it is in our power to build up or tear down with what we believe and what we do. What is our attitude like? Are we trustworthy women? Do we enrich our husbands lives? Are we virtuous? Are we women of high moral standards?

A husband I am sure are so blessed by a wife of quality and virtue.

Now lets flip it and find out more about the husband of this virtuous wife. If his wife is virtuous then he too must be virtuous. You cannot be in a marriage that will last if one person holds moral standards highly and the other does not. If this is a quality that delights a husband then he too will be a virtuous husband not only in his marriage but in his workplace and in every area of his life.
Single people look for someone who has high moral standards and likewise know what you stand for. You will not be able to build a good foundation in a marriage until you are sure what you believe and the things you simply won't negotiate on. If you don't stand for anything you will fall for anything. Ask God to show you how to be virtuous. Read your Bible and learn what God says is a virtuous character.

There is trust within their marriage. He trusts her with his life, the home, finances, their children and his heart. The wife trusts her husband. He is a trustworthy man. She knows that she can rely on him to provide for her and their children and she trusts him with her heart. Submitting to his headship is not based on fear but on trust. They trust each other because they are trustworthy.
Are you looking for someone trustworthy? Are you trustworthy? Do you mean what you say and do what you say you will? Can you be trusted at work and are you trusted by people around you?

She greatly enriches his life and brings him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. This speaks to me of a unselfish woman. She cares for her husband, honours him and makes his life better. She does not tear down their marriage with words and she is a safe place for him to land at the end of a long day.
Marriage isn't 50/50 it is 100/100. Not give and take but give and receive.
Women be the kind of woman that brings richness to other's lives and build others up. Look for a man who is kind to others and who brings value to the friendships he has. Men look for a woman who has friends who are better off by having her in their lives.

A lot of the time in marriage we need to look at ourselves and what we can change and how we can better love our spouses and support them. When women say they don't need a man to make them happy I think they miss out on an amazing journey of character building and finding just what kind of stuff you are made of. Yes it is true that I will not lean on my husband to make me happy or expect him to be totally absorbed in my emotions (they make me tired just dealing with them myself) but having my husband in my life has enriched my life. It is more than just being happy. I trust my husband because he is a trustworthy man. He is a man of noble character and I am blessed to have him in my life.
There are some guys out there that have not been noble or trustworthy and who have harmed their wives but not all guys are like this and there are some really great ones out there who may just need a woman who will come alongside him and enrich his life.